online dating in your forties, fifties & beyond
BROADEN YOUR HORIZONS
..ALGORITHMS DON’T WORK
Studies have proven algorithms just don’t work, so stop filtering your search so tightly you turn up next to nothing.
Expand the distance parameter; chances are your match doesn’t live next door.
Don’t get too caught up in “is he a dog or a cat” person, does he like jazz or if he’s shorter than you.
Expand your desired age group too! You might be looking for a relationship, but in the meantime, you could just turn up a younger lover or vice versa.
If you keep your options loose, you will turn up many more men who bring something different to the table! After all, perhaps you’re reading this because your previous searches haven’t worked.
CURATED BEST SELF
..A PROFILE IS NOT A PERSON
Remember when you’re creating a profile for a dating app it’s a curated best self, consider the fact your profile may no completely convey who you are as a person. Don’t LIE! Don’t lie about your age or use old pictures where you weighed less. This will only cause anxiety if and when you actually have a date with someone. Believe me, it will be awkward and a waste of time for everybody.
If you present yourself as precisely who you are with confidence, using clear and current photos (no snap chat filters) your profile will do well.
Also, don’t write an essay or appear snarky or cynical, keep your bio short, perhaps show some humour. Be aware many men say absolutely nothing at all (I’m always cautious of these profiles because I place so much value on words. Still I try to take my own advice about keeping my search open.)
DON’T PUT ALL YOUR EGGS IN ONE BASKET
..JUST SWIPE RIGHT
I know many women agonise over swiping right on Tinder. Chances are, out of thousands of profiles you might only swipe right on one. Then you probably fully project your expectations on this one man. If he doesn’t respond within your time frame (if he responds to a match at all) or in the way you want him to you’re irked.